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Why are US customs agents so talkative? I cringed hard when a US customs agent asked me if I was on vacation. He doesn’t need to know why I went to another country as long as I am a U.S. citizen.

Last Updated: 17.06.2025 04:29

Why are US customs agents so talkative? I cringed hard when a US customs agent asked me if I was on vacation. He doesn’t need to know why I went to another country as long as I am a U.S. citizen.

Customs agents go through your luggage and find the receipt, paperwork, and the box from where you bought it in Aruba.

Customs agent: Nice watch!

They are looking for smugglers. It can be drugs, or it can be that duty free Rolex you bought on vacation that’s on your wrist.

Why is the covert narcissist actively avoiding me when they see me everyday?

I had to explain this to a friend that thought his constitutional rights were infringed. No, you have no constitutional rights outside the USA. When you return to the USA these rights are curtailed until you clear customs. Customs agents have x rayed people and found drugs being body packed. This then allowed the customs agents to get a doctor to actually run a camera up your anus.

Smuggler: (nervous laugh) Yeah I, uh yeah, got it, yeah for Christmas last year.

I remember when Muhammad Ali’s son returned to the USA with a male friend. He was calling it racism that the customs officer wanted to view the contents of his phone and laptop. No it is two men returning from Vietnam. Lots of underage children are sold in the sex trade to sex tourists. They were looking for kiddie porn. Sex tourism is repugnant enough when it’s western men and enslaved adults. Children sex slaves and that trade makes my stomach hurt.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?